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3.25.2010

How To Deal With A Heartbreak

Being heartbroken is the same, common old story that everyone knows - one heart is holding on while the other is already letting go. Good for you if the separation has been done in a polite and acceptable way; something like you and your partner has talked about and that you both decided to end things once and for all. If things arent really going well with your partner recently, then coping with a breakup is somewhat no longer a big deal. But how about if you were just left in the corner, feeling stupid since there were no signs of it or that you didnt saw it coming and no goodbyes made it clear?

As you can see, most cases of a heartbreak are usually because the other person just went off all of a sudden without a notice, leaving the other one clueless and waiting in vain. To deal with a heartbreak is perhaps one of the causes of extreme anxiety or depression that may lead to something more serious if left untreated. Some people end up killing themselves due to too much pressure and the so-called unbearable pain of having a heartbreak; it's as if you are actually or literally suffering from a broken heart.

No matter how you look at it, going through a heartbreak is never easy and swift. Though most people have already accepted in their hearts and anticipated the occurrence of a heartbreak whenever they would enter a relationship or commitment, you just cant always deal with things as if it doesn't really matter. And normally, you cant practice what you preach to others. Whether you are the best advisor in the whole universe or a first-timer in the world of love, dating and relationships, surviving a heartbreak would always take some time and effort as well as a lifting support from your other loved ones. Sometimes, it takes more than that to successfully move on and get over it.

It wont help if you keep reminiscing your past. It's natural that you, from time to time, would browse through your happy photos together and remember the sweet old days. But doing it every hour of the day would definitely keep that fire of longing burning. This may also lead to pathetic questioning of yourself as to what went wrong and what have you done; stuff like that. Dont kid yourself by trying to blame everything on you and that, maybe, there still hope if you patch things up. You know deep down in yourself whether it s truly over or not, so dont dwell on unrealistic issues. And of course, it pays to have a friend or family member listen to your sentiments; it can help lessen the burden and the pain or sadness.

There are so many ways on how you can efficiently and smoothly deal with a heartbreak. But various techniques would never take effect if you still haven't accepted in both your mind and heart that every thing's over. Without acceptance and the motivation to keep going with your life as it is, it would be quite difficult to get over your painful past. And come on, can those "emo" quotes and music you keep on digging would be able to lend you a hand? Geez, give yourself a break. It's already tough just to think about the definition of being heartbroken. So while you still can, chin up and do your best to feel and look good, it's not yet the end of the world, you know. ;)   

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