The Power of S.S.S pt.2

Here is the continuation of my previous post regarding The Power of S.S.S:

Slow to Speak
"The wounds created by your words are harder and longer to heal than the words inflicted by a sword."

Some people are quite tactless not just with their actions but more frequently with their words. Because many people like to talk more than listen, they tend to say things which are not actually called for. Many forms of relationship, including friendship, are destroyed through harsh words or untrue statements. If you don't think before you speak, you would have more chances of either not telling the truth or saying things which can only hurt other people. I guess it's better to talk less but with sense than talk more about something that is only useless or destructive.


- Passive speakers are those who don't relay the message they intend to share in the right or appropriate manner. This may result to misunderstanding. Passive people are known to be the silent types. They prefer not to talk that much even if needed. Though being passive can be, at times, beneficial, it can also bring forth more harm to others than lend help.

- Aggressive ones are prone to insisting what they want or believe in despite the arguments and possible consequences. They are like stubborn kinds of people. They voice out anything they wish to. They don't look before they leap. This results to more confrontations and unnecessary arguments.

- Assertive speakers are more mature. They are more aware of what they say or do. They choose when to assert their points and when to stop talking. Assertive ones choose to observe first, then listen and eventually blurt out their ideas and opinions. They are positive and inspiring speakers. Being assertive means respecting what others have to say and learning how to say no or disagree without losing your ground.

And again, “Be quick to listen, be slow to speak.”

Slow to Anger
While you can learn how to efficiently control your thoughts or discipline yourself when it comes to listening and speaking, it is quite difficult to always refrain yourself from getting angry. Sometimes, outburst of emotions are harder to manage than careless talking. Some people who managed to discipline their ways of talking and listening are having a hard time dealing with such emotion. Though you may be a person who knows how to handle your anger, there will always come a time that you'd certainly lose composure.

It's not necessarily that you have to get rid of your anger as it is not something that you can easily throw off. Just do your best to discard any situations that could light up the fury dwelling deep inside of you. "Be kind even to your enemies; for you will heap coals of fire on his head." Instead of entertaining your anger towards another individual, do your best to divert such negative emotion into kindness. And the moment you can feel a surge of anger running through your nerves, practice heavy breathing while looking into the brighter side of things. Deal with any issues without a hint of anger for more favorable results.